Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength.
Saint Francis de Sales
One of the things that I think about is how events shape the course of our lives. Sometimes these events are horrific and the inclination is to wish they’d never happened but I think if not for that… this.
With the passing of time though sometimes we realize that the event was a catalyst setting the stage for something incredible to happen.
I think it’s important to remember this and stay in the moment as much as possible, no matter how difficult the situation. We don’t know what lies just ahead.
“The Moth don’t care when he sees The Flame. He might get burned, but he’s in the game. And once he’s in, he can’t go back, he’ll Beat his wings ’til he burns them black… No, The Moth don’t care when he sees The Flame. . . The Moth don’t care if The Flame is real, ‘Cause Flame and Moth got a sweetheart deal. And nothing fuels a good flirtation, Like Need and Anger and Desperation… No, The Moth don’t care if The Flame is real. . . ” Aimee Mann
For much of my time as a photographer, other than a series on dying kokanee, I’ve put my lens on beauty which is never in short supply in our natural world.
Lately though I feel compelled to tell a different story.
It’s not pretty but it’s there, right in front of me. and I’m finding it hard to look away.
He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead; his eyes are closed.
On a recent trip to the mountains we had the great pleasure of seeing this guy munching away amongst the wildflowers that infused the meadow with color. The bear’s sense of smell is incredible so although I was a good distance away and using a long lens, he knew I was there.
I love that I have the opportunity to be in the presence of these large apex predators. When steps are taken such as proper food storage while camping in their backyard, everyone is safer, bear included.
For me it’s a thrill to have wildlife appear in a setting that is already filled with beauty. I’ve been at this very place throughout all of the seasons and I’ve never failed to be rapt in awe.
Like the rainbow after the rain, joy will reveal itself after sorrow.
Divorces are messy and no matter how hard you try to create that pathway to exit with the least amount of collateral damage, it doesn’t happen. Emotions run raw and guilt is the order of the day regardless of whether you were the one who left or the one who was asked to leave.
Moving forward takes a leap of faith and careful navigation through the ensuing storms.
Life is funny though and it turned out that my plan of living a quiet solitary life was not how this story would end. A friendship that began over 35 years ago was rekindled after we both had separated and were in the process of ending long marriages.
The left hand side of the double rainbow in the image above marks the spot that we had chosen the day before, as we wandered through our campsite, to hold our wedding ceremony. Just one of many perfect signs that led to this day.
It wasn’t fancy. It was a small collection of eclectic family and friends and the moments that were shared we will never forget.
The biggest life lesson for me is that you really don’t know the plan for you but if you stay true to yourself you can weather any storm that lies ahead.