You’re going to find out who your friends are. Anything that happens in your life is one of those challenges. It may not be at the level of celebrity, but everybody’s going to travel that road.
Stanley A. McChrystal
There’s nothing quite like a divorce to give you clarity on the people in your life. I suppose the very nature of it forces choices upon people and that’s been the interesting part for me. And yes, I think it’s important to talk about this stuff, really important.
We’ve had some fascinating conversations lately delving into stories of friends old and new, and finding that while some have a “best by” date, others are the true definition of a friend. The experiences of the past two years have taught me things that I will use going forward and hopefully as a result, I will be a better and more supportive friend to those still in my life. Interested in becoming a better friend?? Read on for three key points that could make a difference…
Top five most stressful life events include death of a loved one, divorce, moving, major illness or injury, and job loss. Any one these things can be extremely stressful, combine them and that’s really cause for alarm.
The narrative of the event can change and become something that no longer even remotely resembles the truth.
We’ve both experienced this one where the reality gets white-washed with a fresh coat of paint and becomes the new, less incriminating version of what happened. Got a question about something? If you value the friendship at all ask, don’t assume that what you’ve heard is the truth.
Don’t know what to say?
How about a message or voicemail saying “Hi, I thought about you today, how are you?” We don’t always want to talk about “it” either, sometimes it’s nice to get out of our own heads and hear about what’s going on in your life. Moving forward from a traumatic event is an important part of healing.
Be aware that just because a person looks okay it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are okay.
Uprooting your entire life is tough stuff and the emotions go deep, some of us just hide it better. I’m grateful for my support team of friends who not only believed in me but looked after both my physical and mental health needs.
The image above was taken on New Year’s Day, one of the days that I make a tradition of photographing, often by myself in years past. For me it had all the right elements…bitter cold, blowing snow, and beautiful wintry colors. The symbolism of the empty road obscured in the foreground and vanishing into the distance was not lost on me.
Where some might see a bleak landscape I saw a clean slate, a road less travelled, and I took it, and as luck would have it I was with a friend.
8 thoughts on “On challenges…”
I’m glad you found a good friend to travel the road it’s. it’s tough doing it alone. Happy New Year friend. 😻
Thank you Jo-Anne, only proves to me that we never know what life has in store for us. This year perhaps?!
Happy 2019 to you and Kevin! Although we haven’t know each other for long, I enjoyed your company and smiling face! We miss you two as our neighbors and hope we can meet up again some day!
Happy 2019 to you both! We feel the same and you were wonderfully supportive, thank you!
Wonderful inspiring words as usual and a colorful wintery picture to go with those words. I have to wonder if I had been with you, would I have realized the beauty of what I was looking at. You do seem to have a special gift for seeing while some of us look without seeing.
Thank you, what a great compliment!
You see the true beauty underlying everything, Sheryl. Your road less travelled is the perfect one to be on! Happy travels to you xxx
Thank you Jenny, I believe there is beauty to be found everywhere. It’s up to us to frame it.